I had an interesting conversation with my wife a few days ago. She is starting up a new blog, but she wanted to maintain her anonymity. She wasn’t going to hide her name, but she didn’t want to be herself. She wanted to put forth an image that wasn’t really her.
It got me thinking about this one thing that I believe wholeheartedly:
People follow and do business with PEOPLE, not businesses.
In other words, people want to deal with real people, not a big corporation or something that is fake or artificial.
And taken back to the idea of blogging, people are more likely to want to follow you if (a) they’re interested in what you’re saying and (b) they LIKE you.
That means you gotta be a real person. You want to show personality. You want to let people into your daily life – at least somewhat. You want people to know who you really are. Because it is that person – you – who your readers are going to develop a compassion for.
A lot of people have the instinct of clamming up. They don’t want to share details of their lives. They want to remain super private. They want to hide. If that’s you, fine! But don’t try to be a big-time blogger.
You will see on this site that I do post things about my life. Not everything I do is focused around blogging. I have a family. We do things offline. I bring my Flickr pictures into this website. I participate in Twitter. I even do videos of things that I do while offline. These things let you guys – my readers – into my personal life so you can get to know who I am. I have control over how far things go. There are things you’ll never see me put on the Internet. But, I’m not hiding and I don’t have a problem with people getting to know me like that.
You’ll find that when you, as a blogger, let your personality hang out there that you will get more readers. People can sense whether you’re real or not. And, in the same way that reality TV attracts the audience, your life can also attract an audience. Not in a stalker way, but in a way that people come to admire you and they may identify with you. Sure, you may piss somebody off sometimes for being a little too real for their tastes, but whatever. You probably cannot grow your blog without pissing off somebody.
My wife is a beautiful person and she has literally no reason to want to clam up and be super private about her personality or her life. Obviously, like me, there are things she probably wouldn’t share (and for the sake of my reputation, that’s probably best 
), but I hope that she’ll get over that initial fear about strangers knowing her better and open up.
And you do the same if you want to develop a reader base on the Internet.
David has been blogging for 15 years, and generating a six-figure income at it for the last 12. He is the founder of Blog Marketing Academy. 
David Risley has been building and operating authority blogs for 15 years, and operating a six-figure business doing it for a decade.
I'm starting to find that this is the best way to connect with readers and gain a readership. Steve Pavlina recently wrote a post titled “Share your Shame” that essentially says the same thing that you're saying here.
By revealing who you really are to your readers, it's kinda like you transcend the feeling that you're communicating with eachother through a computer, and instead it starts to feel like you're talking face to face.
Great article, and thanks for the reminder. I'm gonna get to work on an article about what I've been up to for the past year or so.
I'm starting to find that this is the best way to connect with readers and gain a readership. Steve Pavlina recently wrote a post titled “Share your Shame” that essentially says the same thing that you're saying here.
By revealing who you really are to your readers, it's kinda like you transcend the feeling that you're communicating with eachother through a computer, and instead it starts to feel like you're talking face to face.
Great article, and thanks for the reminder. I'm gonna get to work on an article about what I've been up to for the past year or so.
I read this with real interest David. I must confess I am like your wife. I have a Blogger account which is open only to me, Windows Live Spaces account open to just family(invited) and Facebook which I operate really tightly and only invite some family and some people. I guess I’ve read a number of articles warning us about how careful we need to be when sharing our lives online. Maybe these articles are media scare stories and are over the top. Anyway your blog has got me thinking about challenging some of my concerns re privacy.
I read this with real interest David. I must confess I am like your wife. I have a Blogger account which is open only to me, Windows Live Spaces account open to just family(invited) and Facebook which I operate really tightly and only invite some family and some people. I guess I’ve read a number of articles warning us about how careful we need to be when sharing our lives online. Maybe these articles are media scare stories and are over the top. Anyway your blog has got me thinking about challenging some of my concerns re privacy.
Brian, Just to be clear, I’m not saying hand over the farm. Sure, there are privacy concerns online. But, I also think some worry about it too much.
You can inject personality into your blog without your audience knowing everything about you.
Brian, Just to be clear, I’m not saying hand over the farm. Sure, there are privacy concerns online. But, I also think some worry about it too much.
You can inject personality into your blog without your audience knowing everything about you.
I know that this is an old post, but I just recently discovered your blog…I have been enjoying reading your posts, both new and old. You do a good job of being personal. I just recently started to blog and even more recently started to realize the importance of interacting with your readers and the importance of being yourself…so far, I have been like your wife(or as your wife was at this time)…hesitant to share myself.
I know that this is an old post, but I just recently discovered your blog…I have been enjoying reading your posts, both new and old. You do a good job of being personal. I just recently started to blog and even more recently started to realize the importance of interacting with your readers and the importance of being yourself…so far, I have been like your wife(or as your wife was at this time)…hesitant to share myself.