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Issue #216

What you pay attention to

Sent onNovember 5, 2018

In my last issue, I talked about how comparing yourself to others can lead to you focusing on the differences. And all too often, we end up mistakenly erring on the outward facing highlights of their life and comparing to our own behind the scenes.

When we focus on what we don’t have, it will often lead to more of that. See…

You get what you validate. And, when you validate your shortcomings by focusing on them, you’ll just magnify them.

I’m about to get a little “woo woo” on you here, but I personally believe this…

As beings, we imbue the world around us with energy. It is like we’re literally painting our environment with energy. That energy can either be positive or negative. And that “painting” is driven by our attention.

Not only that, when we give something our attention, we’re also giving it power. We’re validating it. We’re imbuing energy into it, merely by focusing our spiritual energy on it.

That energy has a quality to it, however. It can either be positive or negative.

There are those people who, when they put their attention on things, things tend to go right. There are also some people who tend to screw up anything they get involved with. There are lot of different scenarios here, but all of it is summarized by simply saying that we imbue things with energy and that the nature of that energy has a lot to do with the effects.

I get emails from my new subscribers about their big challenges. And I pay attention to the language which is used. And I see people kinda bashing themselves silly, unfortunately.

When you validate your problems as reasons why you can’t do this, you’re letting yourself down. When you use language like “I hope” rather than “I will”, then you’re validating the concept of failure and letting yourself down.

When you focus on losses rather than wins, you’ll get more losses. When you focus on shortages, you’ll get more shortages.

I have built this concept into The Roadmap by having “pit stops” throughout where Lab members submit their wins. No matter how big or how small, members will tell me about the progress they have made. My goal is to help members focus on wins because, by validating those wins, it becomes a snowball effect and the wins get bigger over time.

Positivity or negativity toward things is a learned skill. You might have a natural tendency toward one or the other, but you have control over it. You can train yourself to be more of an optimist by taking time each day to list one or more things you are grateful for.

Being grateful is literally injecting beauty into the world.

One might not think of gratitude as imbuing their world with positive energy. Many think of it as merely “being thankful for” something. But, it is so much more than that.

It is something to strive for.

And something to be aware of the next time you find yourself being rather negative about your own situation. When you’re doing that, ask yourself…

What reality are you postulating for yourself right then?

– David


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